Stop Trying To Fix Grief

It hurts when someone offers up advice that’s impossible to follow.

Jacqueline Dooley
6 min readDec 21, 2022

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Painting of a sad figure who is blue, standing beneath a tumultuous multi-colored sky featuring a pink orb (moon or sun)
Painting by Emily Dooley

There is a common theme that comes up, like clockwork, in the grief support groups I belong to online.

Someone will describe an encounter they had with a friend or family member or even a trusted therapist — a person who generally has the griever’s best interest at heart. This person…

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Jacqueline Dooley

Essayist, content writer, bereaved parent. Bylines: Human Parts, GEN, Marker, OneZero, Washington Post, Al Jazeera, Pulse, HuffPost, Longreads, Modern Loss