I suspect your comment is more about you than it is about what I did or didn't do in this friendship. Writing something as candid as this tends to invite judgement. I get that, but I reject this advice on the grounds that you have absolutely no idea what motivated either of us during our friendship. I will say this, bailing on plans in my 20s and not showing up for her father's funeral are not at all the same. I also showed up in many ways not mentioned in the piece - because keeping score isn't how I roll. This piece is about forgiveness for equally large failures on both sides of a relationship you know absolutely nothing about. Please think hard about what value advice like this truly brings to the table - and who it's really for - before you weigh in on something you literally know nothing about.