How Shared Grief on Facebook Makes Me Feel Less Isolated

Facebook has become a source of solace for me since I lost my daughter.

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The ugly shoes club

There is an old poem called, “I am wearing a pair of shoes” that pops up on parental grief forums, bereavement websites, and all over the place around Mother’s Day. I haven’t been able to find the author’s name. The poem is always shared with the words, “author unknown” posted beneath it. Perhaps this is why it resonates with so many bereaved parents. All of us could have written it.

Grief and social media in the age of COVID

Despite what you may think, my Facebook feed is not the saddest corner of the internet. My fellow grieving parents post funny memes. They share photos of their surviving children. They talk of hope and healing and a renewed sense of purpose. This is, perhaps, the biggest benefit of connecting with fellow bereaved parents. They are proof that there is, in fact, an after.

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Occasional poet. Writer of sad essays. Novelist. Birder and amateur photographer. I enjoy trees.

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