For Newly Grieving Parents, Here Are Some Things I Want You To Know

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I know there’s nothing I can say or write or expresss that will reach the place where you are right now. I will say that I’m sorry even though I know that sorry isn’t enough. The word is hollow. It’s weightless. It floats away, insubstantial and meaningless.

There’s nothing appropriate or comforting or wise that can possibly address the desolation you’re experiencing. I’m sorry isn’t enough. I know this, but I’ll say it anyway.

I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I’m so very sorry for your loss.

Please know that you’re not alone .You, the mother who can’t sleep because the silence is too heavy. You, the father who is listlessly scrolling through social media posts because trying to concentrate on literally anything else is impossible.

You have experienced the worst loss imaginable (you will hear this phrase a lot), but there are people who walk this journey in front of you, and behind you, and (sometimes) right beside you. We understand exactly what you’re going through. I understand exactly what you’re going through.

My sweet girl died four years ago, a few weeks before her 16th birthday.

The first year of after she died, it felt like I was lost in a foreign country without a map. The only people that offered a…